ALL MEN AND WOMEN SHOULD HAVE BY 25 YEARS ELSE....
KNOW THESE AND WALK WITH THEM
1) Nobody cares about you. You are the only person who can take care of you and only person who knows you better, so make your priority list and put yourself at the top.
2) Best Friends forever is myth. Get up and accept the fact, with time everyone(including you) change, many will leave you and you will leave many. People will come into your life, play their role and leave with time, so don't get too much emotionally attached.
3) The Reason you are able to live your life till now, is your family. They are the silent protector. Talk to your parents as much as you can, they should be in your priority list after you and then Rest of the world. Try doing things that merit blessings from your parents. For example, you could change your parents Keypad phones(YAM) to smart phones. You could take them out one day and spoil them. Since you can take that young lady/ man out, why not your parents? 😶
4) Don't compare yourself with others. Everyone is unique in their own way. You only know about their current position, not about their path and past. Some comparisons can make you commit a friendly murder-killing yourself without noticing. The current trend of social vices including hookups, sextapes, OnlyFans, Shisha and other substance abuse are mostly as a result of trying to rub shoulders with people who you think are making it in life. For example, buying an iphone to compete in a PICTURE-A-THON to please your friends while you may even have an eye problem is definitely insane.😁
5) Don't try to please everyone. “I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.
6) Self motivation is very important factor in life.
7) Whatever is causing you worry or pain right now won’t cause you worry or pain forever. Things change with time and it will pass.
8) Help others, it will give you the greatest pleasure but not at the cost of your loss.
9) Accept, you don’t always get what you want. No matter how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to and its totally fine. “Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans” – John Lennon.
10) Laugh with everyone but don't trust.
11) Get over with the your past. Remember it's your past not future (No matter it is good or bad).
12) Don't expect too much from anyone. Too much expectation can kill you from inside.
13) Don't make yourself available too much for anyone, you will your lose importance.
14) Cry if want to cry. There is no shame in it, its fine .
15) You always have a choice, Always.
16) Learn to give respect.
17) Learn to appreciate others work.
18) There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know”. Nobody has all the answers, pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect.
19) Don’t take anything for granted.
20) Learn to make tea or coffee according to your own taste, it will make you feel special.
WHAT SHOULD BE YOUR PRIORITIES OR FOCUS THEN?
- Health: First things first. No matter how big or strong you look for or how much critical your work is, it is your body and mind that you will need every moment of your life. And without health, you cannot simply imagine a life of your dream. Everyday, find time to workout for at least an hour and I promise, you will flush all negativity, stress and diseases out everyday…. And workout doesn’t just mean to go to gym to HIIT (high intensity interval training) treadmill and do weights. It can be as simple as jogging, yoga, dance or sports that you love and enjoy doing.
- Relationships: Your career is a top priority not just for you but also for your parents. It has been their priority from the time when you were not even born. So remember the fact that your parents are the most important people in your life. When you make any critical career decision or any other crucial decision per se, also take this in mind to know how it will affect your parents. They have taken care of you and now as you are an adult, they are your topmost priority even when they will insist that you should do whatever makes you happy. Do not forget the sacrifices they have made to send you were you are now. Next come your friends with whom you have spent most of your time. You will have very few of them. While you will be busy with your work and learning, always find some time for them. They won’t ask more than that. I am not mentioning much about your girlfriend/boyfriend here as you will take care of them anyway without having to ask about it. Just kidding. They too are equally important. Take a great care of them.
- A fulfilling career: I know that phrase sounds ambiguous. Most of you will agree with me that your first job doesn’t happen to be the best one. But it will be the most useful one. At this job, you will find out what you look in a job which will eventually become a long term career for you. Complaining or sulking about your job won’t help you. You will have to learn and work towards a career of your choice. There are a lot of things that you learn in a hard way at your first job. Remember, career is not a job but it is a journey of your life doing different things that you like and also the things that you do not like. It’s you and only you who can define for yourself the definition of a fulfilling career. I leave that up to you to find.
- Money: Money is very important in this material world. I know you know this. We live in the age of capitalism, so the majority of the population of this world is money-minded. I don’t need to say much about it. You will need money and you will earn it. But, I will just advise you to be careful about what you lose in the pursuit of money. Whatever you do in your career, never put money at the top as a reason to pursue it. I stop here as rest of the discussion will take us towards unending philosophy of life which we can discuss later.
- Not everyone is your friend: You read that right. You will make a lots and lots of friends in your life. There will be very few true ones. Rest of them either envy you or compete with you though not openly or sometimes won’t even like you. Pure pretentious pals, I call them. You will meet a bunch of such people and you will get to know them. So be careful about such people and maintain a healthy distance from them. At the same time you should also not be in race to be ahead of someone. That’s the worst way of leading a life which we call rat race. You should learn to be grateful and appreciate good in other people. That way you will make more genuine friends and form meaningful relationships.
- Be careful about Drugs, Alcohol and Sex: When you will have your money, you are your master and you will do so much to make your master happy. At this age, there are chances that you will be lured towards these things. To your surprise, everyone around, suddenly will look for fun and enjoyment. Then these three things will be thrown at you as the only source of ecstasy and pure joy. But that is a honey trap of addiction. These three things are the most overrated and most harmful things you will ever know in your life. You will meet so many people indulged into it. You will get into shallow and casual relationships which have sole purpose of physical pleasure and nothing beyond that. You may end up ruining your life or of someone else. Keep away from such misadventures as much as you can for if you fall for them, a thousands of hours of your life will be wasted down the drain and you will later end up regretting about them a lot.
- Explore Spirituality: Your whole life will have the moments of happiness, sadness, failure, success and ups and downs. None of it will be permanent but you will experience this very frequently. To cope up with these side effects of life and stay calm in this journey, spirituality will be extremely useful. And remember the words of Robin Sharma:
“We are not human beings having spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having human experience.” That sums it all.
WHAT THEN SHOULD BE THE MINIMUM ACHIVEMENTS BY 25 YEARS
1. A FULL TIME job. You should be working full-time. You don't necessarily have to be earning a living wage by 25, but you should be working full-time. You should be experiencing what it is like out in the working world, and getting real world work experience under your belt. Then you will be in a much better place to get a good paying job. By this, I don't mean a plush job. You could be a farmer, a mechanic, laborer, teacher, blogger, or anything you can call a job to get you started.
2. Relatively Independent. You should probably not be living with your parents at age 25. Have roommates, at least. No excuse for a 25 year old to be living at mom and dad's house. Well, unless situations and cultures permit it. By the time someone is 25, they should be well on the path the self-sufficiency. If you can't afford it, then start thinking about what you really need vs. what you really want, in terms of expenses. It's hard to be independent, but you learn quickly and it's well worth it in the end.
3. If you are living with your parents, then you need to be contributing to the household. Doing your own laundry, making your own meals, paying for your expenses and helping with house costs. You're far too old to have your parents do everything for you.
4. You begin to realize that you don't want to stay up late and party. It starts to no longer You realize your responsibilities. You start taking responsibilities seriously.
5. College degree or other qualification. Nowadays it's really hard to get a reasonable job without a college degree. The job market is highly competitive across nearly all fields. A college degree is required now for jobs that really don't need one. Employers have really tightened their hiring practices and requirements they are seeking aren't necessarily needed to do the job.
6. Having integrity at your age is key. You're too old to be making excuses. To be dishonest. Start being accountable for your actions. Take responsibility for yourself. If you make a mistake, own up to it.
MATERIAL THINGS YOU SHOULD HAVE BY 25
- A mobile phone
- Your own clothes for God's sake
- A girlfriend
- A computer
- Your personal room with a mattress
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